Parent: Charges Not Reflective of Ex-Teacher's Behavior
Former William Mason School parent witnessed hand-holding, but is stunned by accusations.
One parent whose daughter was a student of a former Montville first-grade teacher accused of sexual assault said she witnessed the teacher holding hands with students, but was stunned by last week's charges.
Jason Fennes, a former teacher at William Mason School, was arrested twice last week on sexual assault and endangering the welfare of a child charges stemming from two separate alleged incidents.
Theresa Golowko and her family have known Fennes for the past 10 years. Her children knew him through school and were on his track team while her husband coached alongside him. Her family has traveled with Fennes for athletic events and has seen his involvement and interaction with the Montville community firsthand.
"I never witnessed any behavior close to what was described in the allegations," Golowko told Patch.
Fennes was arrested on March 5 and charged with sexual assault and endangering the welfare of a child after a girl who was in his class in 2005 alleged he sexually abused her.
Fennes was arrested a second time last Friday and charged with first-degree aggravated sexual assault, second-degree sexual assault and second-degree endangering the welfare of a child after a second victim came forward and described an alleged incident that occurred during the 2006-07 school year.
Fennes is being held at the Morris County Correctional Facility on $300,000 bail with no 10 percent option.
While Golowko admits witnessing Fennes holding hands with students, she felt the school's principal, Dr. Stephanie Adams, should have taken a more proactive role in mentoring her employee.
Adams has not return several requests for comment. Fennes' attorney, Julian Wilsey, also did not return calls for comment this week.
Still, Golowko believes the behavior she personally witnessed was not in line with the charges.
Golowko said Fennes was extremely involved with the community, from mentoring the students in school and through athletics to a fun house event he would run from a home he rented. The fun house event has been criticized by some, but Golowko said it was a full community event and not just run by Fennes.
"He just was into the community like no one I've ever seen," she said.
Golowko said she realized Fennes seemed to relate to the kids and gain their trust by being friendly with them.
"He was more on the kid level, but does that mean he's a pedophile though?" she said.
However, some parents became concerned when Fennes' contact with students was questioned by a school administrator in 2009. While the contact investigated was not sexual, Fennes, who began working in the district in September of 1998, was disciplined with a letter of reprimand and withholding of a raise.
He was later suspended after the district received an anonymous letter in 2010 about his behavior. Fennes received tenure from the district in 2001 and resigned in June of 2010. He began working the following year as a first-grade teacher at Cedar Hill Prep School. He resigned from that position earlier this year.
Fennes was also investigated by the Division of Youth and Family Services, Golowko said, and at that time, several parents began paying close attention to Fennes and his behavior.
Golowko said she even spoke to Fennes on one occasion about how a young male teacher needs to be careful with his behavior around students. She also said Fennes invited parents to visit his classes and Golowko said she looked for the suspicious behavior, but did not see it. If she had, she said she would have pointed it out to authorities.
"I did everything I could do," she said. "If it turns out to be that he was guilty, honestly, I couldn't have done any more."
Golowko said she and other parents are hesitant to come forward to say they did not see the suspicious behavior because she cannot say with certainty that she does not believe the allegations.
When she learned of the first victim, Golowko said she was confident that she never saw Fennes exhibit any actions like those described in the affidavit. But she and her family were surprised to see that a second victim has since come forward.
Still, Golowko said she, and others, should not be quick to pass judgment.
"I just think we need to keep an open mind here," she said.
catgirl
6:37 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
I hope for his sake, and the children's sakes, that these allegations are not true. The sad fact is: if he's exonerated/innocent, his career has been ruined. However, if he's guilty, I really hope he gets the max sentence..as it seems this has been going on for a very long time.
M Dad
9:33 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Here's a quote from the article:
"Golowko believes the behavior she personally witnessed was not in line with the charges."
Here is her account of what she personally witnessed: "she witnessed the teacher holding hands with students"; "Fennes was extremely involved with the community, from mentoring the students in school and through athletics to a fun house event he would run from a home he rented."; "Golowko said she realized Fennes seemed to relate to the kids and gain their trust by being friendly with them."; "He was more on the kid level..."; "Golowko said she even spoke to Fennes on one occasion about how a young male teacher needs to be careful with his behavior around students."
Here is the profile of a pedophile:
http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=519
Seems to me what she observed is exactly "in line" with the charges.
Elizabeth
9:42 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
M Dad, im with you. she described exactly what a child molester does to get the trust of kids and parents. she should be a witness for the prosecution!
Elizabeth
9:44 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Golowko and every parent whose not sure he is guilty should read the above link.
EM
10:07 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Yet I have seen female teachers exhibit the same behaviors with no questions asked nor suspicions raised. I've witnessed Fennes holding hands with girls at the Halloween parade each year...but the same could be said of the other teachers. Ditto to the other examples.
Elizabeth
9:34 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Golowko....does she really think she will witness a pediphile sexual abuse a child in front of everyone? Doesn't she think it's odd for a single man to be so involved with a community he didn't grow up in? Doesn't she think it's odd that he was told before he had tenure that he should not be affectionate to students BUT he kept on doing it? Why does a 30 year old man feel more comfortable with young children than adults? Doesn't she want to know why Fennes was reprimanded with no raise and then suspended?
Sam
10:09 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Elizabeth, you are so right in every way! I know the guy for years and he has never even so much as made eye contact with me. It was only the little girls he was interested in befriending. He wasnt even nice to the boys. Dumping their desks and so on. Gimme a break. I know a teacher from another school that dumped a kids desk and was fired on the spot. How could this have gone on for so long?? Disturbing
Elizabeth
10:28 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Disgusted why are these parents/coaches/friends of fennes all in denial about what they too saw? i get the first accuser maybe, but now a second? and the fact that the principal had sometype of medical leave at the same time fennes left the district? knowing that child molesters are mass manipulators doesn't even make these supporters have doubts about this jerk.
EM
10:09 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
To Elizabeth - I'm sure she DOES. But she, like me, would prefer facts over rumor. And you keep telling everyone to read this link, read that link - the internet is not the know-all.
Elizabeth
10:25 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
EM have you read the link? if you did you can check off every thing on there and it says fennes all over it. go to any child molestation website including national center for missing and exploited children. it is the same. sorry you are in denial about what happened in front of everyones face. denial is a good way to feel better. it's no ones fault except fennes and adams.
Elizabeth
11:34 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
EM, two children have come forward and said they were molested by him. that is NOT
A RUMOR.
Elizabeth
10:34 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
EM yes woman teachers hold hands with their students. so what? "normal" male teachers KNOW NOT to do that. fennes was warned not to by parents and he KEPT doing it. do you get it? he was not only conditioning the parents and kids but his possible victims. he did much more than just hold hands with the girls. there are reports of other types of affection he was asking for from what i hear. this is a tiny town and parents are coming forward with information that both you and i have not heard. i would not be defending one hair on the jerk if i were you. ive seen posts deleted quickly once more information comes out.
EM
10:40 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Im not defending him. Im defending the fact that inappropriate behavior does not equal pedophile. My kids had him. My kids did track. I could have written every single thing Golowko said myself.
And this hits the nail on the head:
"Still, Golowko said she, and others, should not be quick to pass judgment.
"I just think we need to keep an open mind here," she said."
M Dad
10:59 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
True, but she also said she was "stunned" by the charges. Based on his actions compared against the profile of the pedophile, I don't think anyone should be stunned.
Sam
11:06 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
I think "stunned" is a bad choice of word! Give me a break...
William mason is made up of some really wonderful teachers. And yes I would be "stunned" if any one else BESIDES FENNES was accused of this! This is no surprise
Elizabeth
11:37 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
EM, so both of you are saying he was inappropriate. Then, why would he continue doing his inappropriate behavior if he wasn't attracted to children? Come on, a molester doesn't doesn't molest every child they know. Only the ones they feel they can get away with.
loism.
10:51 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
It is a sad state of affairs for Montville: however, I am sure the arrests were not made without serious investigation and that there is ample facts supporting the allegations. The Morris County Prosecutors Office would not arrest this man without good cause, it would make no sense to do that, not to mention that it would open up a huge can of worms in the form of a law suit...No one wants to believe that a teacher could do such things, for such a long time and get away with it...but suffice it to say that there are many facts that the public are not privy to, so let us all be thankful that there are watchdogs out there who will take care of business.
Elizabeth
11:39 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
Perfectly said loism.
Sam
10:52 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
The reason why people would be in denial is because no parent would ever want to believe that a man they liked and trusted with their child would turn out to be a pedophile. He was a king manipulator and he was reprimanded many times for his actions. Any normal man would have just stopped!!! Obviously when your sick you can't. If you know you are being observed with a fine tooth comb, again you would stop drawing attention to yourself. And again he didn't. All of you supporters... Ask yourself why?
maryann teresa
10:54 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
i agree with you loism...i have heard people saying that the victims were made to do this, really? what parent in their rite mind would put their child through that kind of embarrassment. people should really think about what they are saying. we are talking about first degree assault. if someone would make their child spin that lie, than they must be sick too.
Elizabeth
11:42 am on Friday, March 16, 2012
EM, i heard Fennes would say the same thing. that if female teachers can hug and hold hands and kiss, why can't i? your saying just what he used to put off stopping the inappropriate affection he was asking for. I wonder if fennes has access to a computer in jail. it wouldnt surprise me if he was posting on patch.
Elizabeth
12:02 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
these witnesses/victims are interviewed by trained police officers and prosecutor, aka (sex crime unit). the question...why did adams go on a medical leave only a few months after fennes lawyered up and left montville WITHOUT his tenure and why did the board of ed then hire a full time principal within days of the first victim coming forward to the police. if you read some of the last patch articles this december/january, it said they had an emergency meeting the morning around christmas eve. interesting to say the least. she better not be taking the fifth because she owes these kids and this town honestly in this mess.
EM
12:04 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
"I wonder if fennes has access to a computer in jail. it wouldnt surprise me if he was posting on patch."
Oh yes, I am sure thats exactly what hes doing, posting on Patch.
Elizabeth
12:07 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
again the question...why did adams go on a medical leave only a few months after fennes lawyered up and left montville WITHOUT his tenure and why did the board of ed then hire a full time principal within days of the first victim coming forward to the police. if you read some of the last patch articles this december/january, it said they had an emergency meeting the morning around christmas eve. interesting to say the least. she better not be taking the fifth because she owes these kids and this town honestly in this mess.
Sam
12:08 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Adams is disgusting!!! She hiding because she knows she has reason to hide!!!! I'm sure she's all lawyered up! She better be because she'll be going down too. You'll see
tee gee
2:04 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
One can only hope
Had it
1:38 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Golowko.....hard to hear you don't believe he's guilty considering you took your daughter off his club track team as soon as he was arrested.....FACT. Elizabeth and disgusted ...you are both right on. EM...anyone supporting him now looks like an idiot. Maryann....no parent would put their child thru anything like this. Lets get real. Sadly there will be more kids to come.
maryann teresa
3:32 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
i keep hearing there are more kids, i also heard thats why he left Sommerset. so sad.
Theresa Golowko
5:42 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Just to clarify that things are not as they appear. Montville Track Club changed the location of its practices this season. The location was of some distance from our home. Our current family situation warrants us staying close to home. This is the reason for the change. No other. We didn't even know of Jason's arrest when we made this decision. As stated before, we didn't have any problems with Jason Fennes. He was a good coach.
Michael & Theresa Golowko
lexih
2:01 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Just making a comment regarding the journalistic approach of this article: It seems to imply that "parents" are stunned, but there is only one parent interviewed, one who obviously had way more interaction with Fennes due to the track team then a regular parent in the class. Maybe this one parent was the only one to contact the Patch regarding her feelings? I'm not involved at all (I went to elementary school in another district), but perhaps other parents who feel the opposite way should get in contact with the Patch and describe their views in a way that will perhaps legitimize them a bit more than simply posting comments.
Ariana Cohn-Sheehan
2:51 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Lexih, Thank you for your comment. In writing the article, I believe I represented that it is one parent's thoughts, although I would like to note that I reached out to several parents but did not receive return phone calls. However, I would certainly welcome other parents to contact me if they would like for future follow-up stories at ariana.cohn-sheehan@patch.com or 973-220-6670
Elizabeth
10:26 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
from what I understand, parents are contacting law enforcement and do not want to come forward to the media because that may ruin the case against fennes.
Sam
2:11 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Nobody I know is "stunned"!!!!
Had it
2:21 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Me either...except the ex wife. Everyone needs to chill and let the prosecutor's office handle this investigation. Sadly there are more girls coming forward. God knows how many the total will be. It's a a disgrace it wasn't stopped years ago. Would have prevented years of therapy for these poor kids.
Ellen Oxild
3:30 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
I support Ariana's request for people to contact her with comments on record. One parent bravely came forward to state the facts as she saw them. Fennes brought good programs to this community. His reputation and future are now at stake and it is important that facts, not opinions, determine the outcome. In our legal system, we are innocent until proven guilty. There are three sides to every story - yours, mine, and the real side. I can only hope the truth will prevail for everyone involved.
Elizabeth
10:32 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Ellen, two little girls have come forward. no one gives a rats ass about the programs fennes brought to our town. he ruined his own reputation. we believe the montville children not some 37 year old from bloomfield
who was using little kids for his own gratification. the state of nj is saying he is a molester, that is not a rumor.
maryann teresa
3:35 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
the fact is, at this point, 2 children came forward. that is all i need to know.
catgirl
5:13 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
I guess we are not privy to anything going on with the investigation? Whether more girls have come forward..whether there is any substance to "the ex husband" is setting him up...etc?
Had it
5:52 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
How can anyone possibly believe the ex is setting him up? There are two separate girls from two different years who have come forward with allagations against fennes. Everyone always thought he was inapropiate with young girls. So I'm sure there will be more coming out. I know the ex and he would never do this. He just wanted fennes to stay away from his daughter, and he got that with a legal restraining order so that his daughter was only aloud around fennes at track. Plus no parent would have their children lie about something like this. I also know he's sick of reading comments like this, give that crap a rest and him a break.
Ridiculous
7:14 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
UNBELIEVABLE!!! Golowko. I commend you on your honest opinion. As for the rest of you, who out of all of you are speaking from PERSONAL knowledge??? She is speaking about her personal experience with Fennes and all of you discount it. What are all of your personal experiences??? Show respect for someones opinion rather than trash talking them!!!!
ditto
8:26 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Thank you Ridiculous! I too am tired of reading the judgemental comments before all the facts are known
Sam
11:51 pm on Friday, March 16, 2012
Just wondering... Are you saying that two young innocent girls coming forward with very explicit story's of abuse...THATS NOT FACT enough for you? What more do u need to know?
Juror #8
8:07 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
uhm is this a joke?
Had it
3:04 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
That's a great question disgusted. It's obviously all his track friends.....sad.
Juror #8
8:11 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Judging by your comments, your obviously ignorant and bitter about the way Mr. Fennes treated you/your children.
Juror #8
8:12 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Jesus, i feel like we could convince people that they themselves where a pedophile. Thats how naive and ignorant some of the people posting on this forum are.
Sam
9:04 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
And judging by yours... It's a little ironic who's calling who ignorant.
maryann teresa
9:12 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
you will all see soon enough, and those of you that support him...too bad.
Elizabeth
10:36 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
the only people supporting fennes are the few track parents that are naive. they keep talking about rumors.......he was arrested for at least molested 2 children!!!!!!!!!
Had it
10:41 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Disgusted, Maryann, Elizabeth, you are all right on. Definitely track people. How anyone can support him now is disgusting. The facts and truth will come out in court, and they'll bury their heads.
Elizabeth
10:46 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
like I said before.......He was arrested for molesting at least 2 of our children!!!!!!!!! that is NOT a rumor track people!!!!!!!
Elizabeth
10:51 am on Saturday, March 17, 2012
judgmental you really are not smart. the guy was arrested for molesting at least two children yet your still not sure about his character?
Comfortably Numb
12:30 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Ariana, I consider the decision by Montville Patch to take this slant on the story; RECKLESS at best. Clearly, this was a cognizant decision based on how Patch can generate the maximum amount of comments and essentially more advertising and revenue. I think the ethical decision to write an article that contradicts and dismisses the statements of two very young girls that had to dig deep down and come forward is disgusting.
Both of my kids had fennes and the response after the arrest from my kids, my wife,my friends and the teachers at Mason was all the same ..."We are NOT surprised". Thank the Lord, this is mainly because they are all more savvy, more in tune with human behavior and they just have more street smarts than the woman you interviewed.
Was she paid for this interview?
Most people realize that when a teacher has girls continually sit on his lap and hold hands, etc, this is inappropriate behavior (not illegal) and when parents and teachers (such as the woman interviewed) tell him to stop and he continues to do this, it makes his behavior even more inappropriate; hence his suspension. Therefore how could these charges possibly be surprising to anybody? Im not casting a verdict of guilt or innocence, Im just merely stating that the charges should NOT be a surprise to anybody and its not a surprise to the majority of folks that are familiar with this situation. (p 1)
Ariana Cohn-Sheehan
12:36 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Comfortably Numb: First, we do not pay for interviews. The parent in the article wanted to share her opinion with us. The word "opinion" is key here-it is her opinion, not ours, that is reflected in the article. It is her opinion that she was surprised by the charges and it is your opinion that you were not, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. With this article, we are not dismissing the charges against Fennes. In fact, we even link to stories about the charges in here. However, like all stories, there is more than one side to this one and this article reflects the other side. If you wish to share your side and anything you may have seen regarding the behavior or incidents, feel free to email me at ariana.cohn@patch.com or call me at 973-220-6670 to speak on the record as this parent has.
Ariana Cohn-Sheehan
12:38 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Also, I think the story represents Golowko's feelings that while she did not witness the behavior described in the affidavit, she is not seeing it is impossible that it happened. She just said she'd be surprised.
Comfortably Numb
12:30 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
I do appreciate the fact that you did let this woman burry herself with a bunch of ignorant comments like : "The behavior she witnessed is not in line with the charges", this statement essentially speaks for itself, I guess she expected to go to his classroom and catch him with his pants down" ? I guess she also figures her kids would never steal cookies from the cookie jar when she's not looking. That's just a lack of basic street smarts........IGNORANCE IS BLISS!!!!!
If you want to do real life story about this situation, go to the Board of Ed and ask them to lift the gag order on the teachers. Find a teacher that saw him every day for years and see if they are surprised.
maryann teresa
12:21 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
perfectly said.
Comfortably Numb
12:45 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
I get all that, my point was Patch made a cognizant decision to take this slant and the view is a minority viewpoint. Absolutely positively yes everybody is entitled to their viewpoint, i just don't think it was tasteful....(my opinion)
Yes I will reach out to you.
also, as I mentioned ......go to the teachers and get a real story
Ariana Cohn-Sheehan
12:48 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Perhaps a minority viewpoint, but a viewpoint nonetheless. In my opinion, it would be irresponsible to not represent this side of the story as well.
Comfortably Numb
12:54 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
I got it..........Whatever sells $$$$$$$$
Sam
12:55 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Trust me comfortably numb!!!! Teachers do not support him! That's is 100 percent a FACT
Had it
1:02 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Only a few track people support him. They are manipulated and brain washed. ie Golowko. I now heard, from a very reliable source, that the ex wife believes he's guilty. Too bad it took her so long to realize it. For the most part she ruined her family over the guy the last few years.
Juror #8
2:55 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
BREAKING NEWS: Had It's very reliable source isn't very reliable. WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED?
Mary Mart
2:39 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Why do you all need to talk so much about a person you barely know. Let Jason have his day in court and to my knowledge he is innocent until proven guilty. I know this man and am petrified by the the hatred and the rumors spread carelessly by this community. It is not a witch-hunt. He is a human being and personally he still has all my respect for helping my children grow up through athletics more than any other coach they ever had. So please be quiet and let the professionals deal with this.
maryann teresa
9:35 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
you are disgusting mary mart. you be quiet and go away. they are no longer rumors, they are facts. he is not a human being, he is an animal and he will get his in jail.
Had it
2:43 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Another track brain washer person. Good 4 u Mary. B proud of yourself.
Juror #8
2:54 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
This is us: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gUKvmOEGCU
Seeking the unclouded truth
9:26 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Had it, your reliable source is not so reliable. The ex wife simply said she wants the truth to come out. And believe me I have it from an exceptionally reliable source. Also the exhusband needs to stop harassing his 11 year old daughter trying to force her to say something that didn't happen. Sicko. Also had it. You have a lot of venom in you and you simply won't let people have their opinion. Not cool. If he is guilty, the law will convict him. God help you if he isn't. Also name calling people, i e "another track brain washer" is quite immature and naive. These people have had a positive experience with Fennes and it should not be discounted. May I remind you these are allegations - five year old allegations that suspiciously surface now. A lot of unanswered questions. Track or no, Mary Mart is correct. Had it, you and your kind need to stop being so ignorant and let the law do their job. You need to allow people their opinion without all the name calling.
maryann teresa
11:13 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
i too have a "very reliable" source and the facts are true. also, ex-husband is not harrassing his daughter. he is not "forcing" her to say anything. you should know your facts before you open your mouth.
Elizabeth
4:28 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Seeking the unclouded truth...feeling worried that your support for Fennes is taking a hit? You should be embarrassed to talk about anyone except Fennes.
Seeking the unclouded truth
9:34 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Comfortably numb. It would have been irresponsible for the patch not to give Golowkos opinion.
Stew Pitt
10:12 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
God do any of you read the deep hatred you have ?? I mean read what you say . Nobody has an opinion but the haters. Showing your rants to professionals I know makes them laugh. They all say the same thing , guilty in the court of public opinion. I agree with Arianba. If you have opinions backed by fact , then let her interview you and let it out . But I fear she said , he said , I hear , somebody told me , will never go to print. Rightfully so
Stew Pitt
10:24 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Sissy Ariana I misspelled your name
Sam
10:26 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Yea ur right..... We do have DEEP HATRED FOR CHILD MOLESTERS. And no matter what... We believe the children! Enough said
Stew Pitt
10:27 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Sorry Ariana
Stew Pitt
10:35 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Disgusted you may be right. The only problem is you've given me no reason to believe what you say. You only throw hatred out there. You give me no concrete evidence to trust anything you say. There is probably a lot I don't know ,but you give me nothing but hate for this man. Can you back up anything you say with facts ? If so , go to Ariana and give her those facts. This way you can counter the report she did ,instead of discounting it as propaganda .
Sam
10:56 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Stew.. No offense.. But U really don't know what your talking about. Hear me out if u will. Yes this is a blog where we can comment. But all of that aside, information that I know or anyone else may know, doesn't need to be reported to this blog to try and convince you or anyone else. Sure everyone can have an opinion, but there ARE many people close to this that have FACTS. And so do law enforcement! And that's again is a fact. So u need to stop saying that these people are haters!! Because at this point many of the montville society have every reason to HATE him. You should try to respect that as well.
Sam
11:01 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
If you need a little insight.... Go back and read the very first article that the patch posted. It gave very explicit detail of the first victims encounter with fennes. You said you want details... Read the article. It's as detailed as u get. You wonder why people have hatred??? Read it!! That came straight from the child!!! Enough said!
Stew Pitt
11:22 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Allegations... You have to understand in our society allegations have to be proven true. This is not to say the children are wrong , but still allegations. You see my experience is with a fellow worker who was accused of molestation. He insisted he was innocent and I did not believe a word he said. Turns out he was , but spent 18 months in jail awaiting trial. It never went to trial and he was forced to take a plea bargain to get out of jail. He was innocent because his accuser took back her accusation . Still the prosecuter refused to drop it because a child was involved. Forced him to plea down the charges for his freedom. That was the day I made a decision not to convict until all the evidence is in , and the trial is over. I like you wand convinced of his guilt based on his profile. It all fit and he was guilty. Well sorry as much as it doesn't look good to me about Fennes.... I just can't stop thinking of how wrong I was 20 years ago . If all ducks are in a row.. Then Fennes will pay.
Sam
11:35 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
And I do understand your view. And that is sad for your friend to do time for a crime he did not commit. But as you said that was one girl in that case. This is many girls. There are already a handful that are coming forward about this man. With very horrible stories. So I DO understand how some people can be wrongly accused. But unfortunately for the girls in this situation.... I do not think that's the case. The proof is in the evidence and testimony of these many girls.
Comfortably Numb
11:45 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
stew, go see my opinion to Ariana and comment........I would love to hear your response
Sam
11:57 pm on Saturday, March 17, 2012
Comfortably numb said it right. That's why montville is not surprised and none of this is shocking. Disgusting and sad, but not surprising. 13 years of abuse. Thank goodness he's finally behind bars. I'm sure there are young girls that finally feel safe.
Stew Pitt
12:33 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
I understand both of you an I am getting a little less supportive of Fennes as more allegations come forth. You realize that not all saw or know what you claim to know. The only thing I see in your community is two sides and each has a tendency to call the other opinion stupid or ignorant . Do either of you realize that no matter what you say not all are going to see your way if they have not experienced what you have? This is a basic character of human nature. Some people have a concrete nature. They have to see it or touch it to be convinced. Believe me when I say no town or no child should have to go through this painful process. I truley can understand the hate you have for this man , but it will bring you nothing but more pain. When can all of you begin the healing process. Personally I would hope it could start ASAP. Don't kid yourself if you think the kids in Montville aren't reading the hate in all the posts. They are smarter then we give them we think. The posts can be real nasty ,you have to admit. Thanks for listening and I hope the best for the kids and the parents of Montville.
Stew Pitt
1:07 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Hey numb , I read your response to the article. My opinion is its a journalist's job to give both sides of a story. As unpopular as this story was with you , it was from a person who may be a little closer to Fennes than you. That being staid I don't the lady is stupid or ignorant , she just sees things differently. If and when your feelings about Fennes I think ALL those who are hesitant to condem him will feel betrayed and as disgusted as you and disgusted. I haven't seen any articles that say more than 2 have come forward . Have they?
Elizabeth
10:42 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
Stew, it was the title of the article that pisses people off. Because once you read it the mother clearly says she told fennes not to hold hands, etc. with girls and yet he kept doing it. i think there are only a handful of parents/coaches from track who are in the closet supporting him but have their doubts now that two young girls came forward. anyone that would come forward to defend this monster is not someone who would ever want their name in the paper.
Stew Pitt
1:09 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
I meant when and if your feelings come true.
Stew Pitt
1:24 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Sorry if my posts don't make sense sometimes , I just spent 2 days in the hospital with IV antibiotics trying to prevent my infection from becoming more serious. I'm typing on my smart phone not sounding to smart
catgirl
7:39 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Ariana, I think you're doing a good job giving various sides of the story. I'm curious why you haven't interviewed any people at the place he has worked most recently? If Montville already knew about this..did they?
Elizabeth
9:45 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
arianna, can u find out if cedar hill private school contacted montville regarding fennes before they hired him?
joe
3:02 pm on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Even if they did contact montville legally montville can not say anything about fennes or they could be sued...if the board did there job and investigated this guy it would never had gone this far. they could have brought him up on charges..But not montville.they sweep all these things under the rug...make this guy resign and then he can do this to other children in another district and pretend it never happen...this is not the first time they swept things under the rug..they have been doing this for years...hang on to your wallets montville residents because when the law suits come flying in,this board will have no money and the taxpayers will be paying for this for years...SHAME ON THE MONTVILLE BOARD OF ED.
Had it
9:57 am on Sunday, March 18, 2012
He was fired from his last job at Cedar Hiil Preb before Montville arrested him. He resigned from William Mason and left his tenure. There is more than one girl. Think about all that. Hey unclouded truth....You bet I have a ton of hatred for people who molest children. And the ex does not harrass his daughter....all he wanted was for fennes not to have access to her and he got it legally thru a court order. So don't talk bs about a man you obviously don't know. He's a great dad who was protecting his children.
ARealNJHousewife
4:06 pm on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Alot of people keep talking about "all the kids who have come forward" - I believe there are two?? Are there more that is not public knowledge?
maryann teresa
9:39 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
and if it was only two, would that not be enough?
Bob Dudek
4:41 pm on Sunday, March 18, 2012
Let the (legal) process play out.
Human lives are at stake .
Hold on while I say this..take a breath.
.FACTS ..will win.
bull dog
10:33 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
Bob, I think you're missing the point to most of the comments here in this article. The Fennes articles have generated hundreds of comments and not one person has expressed a comment saying the legal process should not play out. maybe your statement was just rhetorical, (I don't know)? The point that people are trying to make is that they are not surprised about these charges which contradicts the premise to the entire article.
Human lives are at stake.....that's a factual statement.....cant possibly agree with you anymore, especially the lives of the young girls.
OK, Bob, hold on......ready? This is the American Judicial process, which I totally support but unfortunately FACTS don't always win a case, it comes down to which side presents and sells their case better. We can only hope and pray that the facts win this case.
Elizabeth
10:46 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
that's right bull dog. even the mother claimed she told him not to be affectionate with the students....yet he kept doing it. it was the wrong title and i'm sure the victims families aren't happy about it.
Elizabeth
10:35 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
I think the title to this interview/article should have been, "Parent who knows Fennes well says his behavior was inappropriate with his students".
Elizabeth
10:44 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
and, montville does have a responsibility to tell the cedar hill school info BUT that is IF cedar hill phoned montville. from what i read in the paper, fennes was already doing a track program at the school so its possible that montville never got a phone call asking about him. someone should ask that question at the next board meeting.
Elizabeth
10:45 am on Monday, March 19, 2012
arriana, you should ask cedar hill school if they ever phoned montville last year regarding his teaching?
The son
3:48 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
I am the son of the ex husband and ex girlfriend of Fennes. I can't keep reading some of these ignorant comments any longer without saying something. "Seeking the unclouded truth"- You claim my mom said she just wants the truth to come out. She did say that. However, after the second girl came out, she now believes he's a pedophile and she can't believe she never saw the signs… Looks like you're "exceptionally reliable source" is not as up to date as "Had it's" source.. But I mean good try I guess. I see a lot of the supporters of Fennes say to let the professionals take care of it and don't make judgements until the facts are known. First off, it doesn't take professionals to come to the conclusion that this man is a creep and always has been after everything that has happened. Secondly, the facts are already known and I'd be happy to share some of them. Fennes has been inappropriate around my little sister, as well as many other children, for the past few years. I used to walk into my house and he would have my little sister on his lap as they were finishing up "Movie Night Tuesday." One time, I looked at my sister's phone and saw texts from him saying "I love you! Ur so cute." Is this a man me or my father wanted hanging around alone with my little sister? Absolutely not, and the inappropriate behavior continues. He held hands with my sister and had her in his car alone sometimes.
The son
3:49 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Whenever he was over, I would ask him to leave because I was not comfortable having him around, for obvious reasons. He would never leave when I asked him to, and would respond with comments such as "What are you gonna do? Call the cops on me? I'm not leaving unless your mother wants me to." As far as the fight between my dad and Fennes, I am the only witness of it and can state some facts about it. I chose to follow Fennes's car with my dad after he drove past my house, suspicious that my sister was in it. Fennes punched my dad first. I went over to break it up by grabbing Fennes and telling him not to touch my dad. He then bent my fingers back, breaking my hand and putting me out of football for 6 weeks, ruining my season. After having see his son get punched by an adult, my dad came to my defense, just as any father would do. Some other facts about Fennes… he was fired from his job in Somerset before any of these allegations took place, meaning he did something inappropriate to one of his students there as well. Both this and the fact that individual girls are now coming out clearly shows my dad is not behind putting Fennes in jail. Do you actually think he's paying the whole town for children to come out and lie? Yeah right, Fennes put himself in jail. For the few leftover, brainwashed, ignorant track parents who are still dumb enough to support Fennes and are in such a deep state of denial, open your eyes and accept the truth now.
The son
3:50 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Of course this is going to be hard to do, as you have wasted the last few years of your lives supporting a pedophile. But imagine how much stupider you're going to look (yes, believe it or not, it is indeed possible for you to look stupider) when he is in fact proven guilty. By reading the FACTS about Fennes stated above, it should become clear to you all exactly why my father has done everything he has. No parent should ever allow his or her child to be around a man like that, even if there's just one rumor about him being a pedophile (in this case, there weren't just rumors- there were true stories witnessed by both me and my dad). My father and I stuck with our instincts and fought for what we believed was right. I pray every day that I fought hard enough and that my little sister will not be the next girl to come out. I feel terrible for the two girls who have come out, and I hope there aren't any others, but the sad truth of it is that we're dealing with a pedophile who taught 1st graders for over ten years. It is inevitable at this point. There will be more.
Comfortably Numb
5:09 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Nice job Little D!!!!
after reading that I really cant believe the Patch ran this ridiculous Golowko lady's viewpoint......disgusting Montville Patch
HereWeGo
4:11 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
I am glad that at least out of all these comments, THREE (all from Dan) are the only ones that have any facts in them. The rest of these comments are all just heresay to me. These are the only comments that have any merit, IMO.
maryann teresa
4:12 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
D...i feel so sorry that you and your family had to be put through all this, making it worse now with all these ignorant people out there. dont you worry, he will get put in jail where he belongs and get what he deserves there...hopefully worse than what he has dished out..i hear they dont like pedophiles much in jail. i give you alot of credit for coming out and standing up for you and your family.
Had it
4:16 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
To "The son" That was very well said. You should be very proud of yourself for everything you have done the last 3 plus years. I know you know how proud your father is of you. I hope your life can finally be free of fear from that disgusting man.
Elizabeth
4:17 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Son, you are a great brother and son. I don't know you personally but I have only heard good things about you and your dad. Protecting your sister and family will be what you remember when you have children. I pray too that your sister and other young girls that Fennes "conditioned" have not been molested as well. The text message alone is inappropriate and would raise red flags to anyone. I'm sorry that it took so long for your mom to see the monster he really was. In one of the links I posted, molesters try to befriend or date single woman with young children. I hope your family can heal from this. You are not only mature but a role model for all kids who know someone is not who they say they are and do something instead of sitting there. I too get upset when these brainwashed track parents talk...i was a track parent too and i knew to keep my kid away. I hope you know that the town feels like your father and you were the hero's in your situation. the two brave little girls that came forward are hero's too. you may all have stopped this molester from ruining more chidrens' lives. I pray too that there aren't more victims but i feel like there will be many more. God bless you and your family.
Former Dillusion Track Parent
5:38 pm on Monday, March 19, 2012
Wow i can safely say after reading down this list of comments i was beginning to feel ashamed to be a part of the montville township community until i came across the eloquent words of The Son. I cannot fathom how anyone--whether they be a dillusional track parent or an out of town source simply trying to inject their bias--could find in their rational mind a reason to support such a heinous individual. The acts of this man are nothing short of appalling but the only thing that's worse is someone still standing up for his actions. Although this entire ordeal is a disappointment unlike any other in the history of the Montville Township school system and community, there is certainly a bright spot; the courage and maturity of this young man The Son to stand up for his family and values despite the unimaginablr suffering Mr. Jason Fennes has put them through. Im so glad to see the community rally around such a an exceptional young man and hope that anyone who reads his moving commentary continues to give him and his family their well deserved support while seeing that Mr. Fennes receives the justice he has deserved for so long.
david kringel
5:47 am on Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Pretty powerful letter from "the son"..... Where are all of the supporters now, For all of the parents, that allowed your child to spend alone time with this man ( he is no man in my opinion), and you know who you are, ask yourself something. Was it worth those few hours here and there to have drinks with the girls,(allegedly) while some man (he is no man in my opinion) who is not the father spend time with your children. Now you have to worry, in the upcoming years, as they become aware, will your child suddenly remember something that made them feel uncomfortable, or even right now as I compose this letter, does she know something that she is not saying because she was sooo fond of this man (he is no man in my opinion) or embarrassed to say etc...Let this all be a lesson to all parents, The smart ones as well as the ones with their heads up their %#&^* .... If the behavior looks inappropriate, lets not let it go this long. Wake up people!!!
Wayne
8:49 am on Tuesday, March 20, 2012
I am an outside observer so please don't. It my head off.
1. There appears to be strong and passionate supporters for both sides of this issue so facts get distorted. As it legally appears there are two accusations of sexual assault one from a woman who withheld evidence for five years thereby is responsible for child endangerment and another more serious charge which might have been avoided had this first woman gone to the proper authorities. Hmm.
2. People in this blog on both sides are making some pretty heavy allegations but you need evidence
3. Who are these track people that allow their children to be sexually assaulted. Who are these many many children in his classroom that have been assaulted?? Where are they all and why haven't they come forward yet? There are many blogs here indicating more kids are coming forward. Now would be the time
4. Finally who this family involved? Exhusband exwife the son?? What do they have to do with these sexual assaults? Are they part of it? The son put in a very passionate blog. How old is he to make these statements. Why have his parents put him in the middle of this. Why was he and his sister exposed to fighting at all?? These parents should be ashamed of themselves. It appears they were used in a nasty divorced which somehow ties into these sexual assaults made on two other children. Very confusing.
maryann teresa
9:42 am on Tuesday, March 20, 2012
exactly, you are an outsider. stay there.
Had it
9:18 am on Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Wayne. It takes years for children to come forward. It takes a ton of guts on the parents part to put their child thru a court hearing that is so personal. So they may or may not come forward. Read the son's post and that sums it all up. And there seems to be very little support for fennes anymore, so I don't see why you say strong support for both sides. And by parents, I assume you mean mother because the son makes no comment about the father doing anything wrong. As for them putting their kids in the middle of a nasty divorce, you are wrong here too. Their divorce was very smooth for the most part, I know this because I am friends with the father. The only part that caused them grief was fennes because the father did not want him around the guy. Rightfully so.
Had it
9:19 am on Tuesday, March 20, 2012
I meant....Want the guy around his daughter.
catgirl
5:36 pm on Wednesday, March 21, 2012
To "The Son", I hope you and your dad are taking your sister to counseling. There are excellent therapists out there that can help her determine the difference between good touch vs. bad touch. I hope for her sake, she never was molested, but a good therapist will help her understand that none of this is her fault. I also want to commend you for the maturity conveyed in your post. I'm praying for your family.
Elizabeth
5:48 pm on Wednesday, March 21, 2012
I want to add that some victims never come forward. Some victims come forward when they are old enough to understand what happened to them was wrong and they find support. No one should ever judge a victim on the amount of time between the sexual assault and pressing charges. As for the adult who knew....we don't know who that is yet. This is a real warning to single moms...if your kids don't like your boyfriend...listen to them and drop him. You live for your kids not for a guy that just happens to fancy you. Look what happened in this situation...these poor kids had to be around this child molester even when they didn't want too.
peter
4:03 am on Thursday, March 29, 2012
jason fennes is innocent!
catgirl
4:52 am on Thursday, March 29, 2012
Peter, no one, except for jason himself can know whether your statement is true or false. Proclaiming his innocence is incomprehensible unless you have been with the man 24/7 since 2000. You are incredibly naive to believe with any certainty what you posted. The facts may never be known...but again, even if he is acquitted, that by no means proves he is innocent. I'm not saying he's guilty..but you need to be realistic. It is possible..if not probable...
Had it
9:27 am on Thursday, March 29, 2012
Innocent? Are you an idiot? How many girls lives have to be ruined for you to wake up? The investigation will prove his guilt and you can walk around looking like the fool you are. A pathetic fool.... Like the track parents.
peter
3:50 am on Wednesday, April 4, 2012
I'm far from being an idiot.My brother is Jason Fennes best friend for over 15 years. college roommates at monmouth in west long branch nj so you see i know what kind of character and setup this is. In the end the truth will come out Joe your dreaming.
catgirl
5:46 am on Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Peter, your brother being his roommate/best friend proves nothing. I like to remind people of Ted Bundy...until they found out the horrific things he did..no one would have believed it because he was an awesome , upstanding citizen as far as anyone knew. Again, I'm not saying Fennes is guilty, but NO ONE, except Fennes himself, and perhaps a few girls, can know WITH ANY CERTAINTY whether he is guilty or innocent. Don't profess your unwavering support of him, because in reality..there is no way for you to know for sure....
Sam
7:05 am on Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Peter, there are lots of child molesters out there and every single one of them I'm sure, has a mom, a sister, a best friend and so on! Just because ur brother was his best friend doesn't make him innocent, all it means is that your brother was FOOLED like many other people who also thought they knew him. Sorry to say... But it's true
Elizabeth
8:01 am on Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Peter, you need to read this article. Its about a jerk, like your fennes arrested for child molestation and then crying,"I've been framed", so you know, that is the most used defense by child molesters.
http://joco913.com/news/emily-parnell-my-friend-child-molester/